forde/hunter

my ancester, mary forde married martin fleischer on 2.11.1802 at st. finbarr's south rc cork.    her father was john forde and mother margaret hunter , who married in 1760 at st. nicholas church coi cork. although a mary forde with above parents were baptized  in christchurch holy trinity  coi cork city on 21.12.1760, it seems too early to be my mary forde as she would have been 42 at marriage. she had 5 children up to 1814.  that mary may have died and another daughter named, mary,  born later.  but in that particular church only   'margaret  1763',   john 1766;   ann 1769;   spencer   1771   (may have died young)  and a spencer hogan 1773 , were baptized afterwards,  with same parents listed.  mary forde/fleischer named one of her sons,   'spencer hogan'  as well.     her brother  'spencer hogan'  married mary fitzgerald  in st. nicholas church 1795. he was a butter inspector in cork city and died 1836. he seems to have baptized his children in rc and coi churches/    the name  'hogan'  could  have been a maiden name of one of his grandmothers. 'spencer' too , could have been. if anyone has any info as to another mary ford/e baptized with above parents would appreciate it greatly.   thanks.